The Evolution of Humor Through the Dementia Journey

Dementia, a name that resonates with heartache and struggle, typically conjures images of memory loss, disorientation, and profound changes in personality. Yet, there's an often overlooked aspect of dementia that can be equally challenging and surprisingly illuminating - changes in a person's sense of humor. As daughters, sons, partners, and caregivers, we find ourselves walking a tightrope of emotions, caught between the pain of loss and the need to connect with our loved ones as they journey through dementia.

Understanding the shifts in our loved ones' humor can offer a vital bridge of connection, a lifeline amidst the tumultuous sea of dementia's symptoms. It's a window into their evolving perception of the world, a glimpse of the cognitive transformations occurring beneath the surface. 

Humor Changes in Dementia: A Tender Shift in Perception 

The Unsung Symptom of Dementia: Understanding Changes in Humor

This blog post endeavors to shed light on why humor changes during dementia, exploring the fascinating relationship between humor and executive functioning, and comparing the normal progression of humor throughout our lifespan with the shifts observed in dementia. Through real-life examples and case studies, we'll delve into the intricacies of this profound change, offering understanding, empathy, and guidance for those navigating this emotional terrain.

Join us as we delve into this less explored facet of dementia, a journey that will deepen our understanding and equip us to better support our loved ones. 

Because laughter, in its many forms, remains a beacon of connection and joy, even as dementia redraws the landscape of our relationships.

Understanding the Roots: Humor and Executive Functioning

Executive functioning comprises a broad spectrum of cognitive processes and skills, including working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control. These are the mental abilities that help us manage time, pay attention, switch focus, plan and organize, remember details, and integrate past experience with present action. Here is a comprehensive resource for understanding executive functioning.

Humor, a nuanced social interaction, is closely linked to our executive functioning. It requires the ability to perceive, process, and respond to a complex interplay of language, emotions, social cues, and abstract ideas. When dementia chips away at these executive functions, the sense of humor morphs, often becoming simpler and less sophisticated.

The Journey of Humor: From Child to Adult

Throughout our lives, our humor changes, much like our cognitive abilities. A child's humor is straightforward and slapstick, often revolving around physical comedy and basic wordplay. As we mature, our humor becomes more sophisticated, often relying on social norms, abstract thinking, and complex language.

In dementia, this progression seems to rewind, returning to a more childlike form of humor. Anecdotes may replace witty wordplay, and physical comedy may become more amusing than satirical commentary. This is not a regression, but rather, a reflection of the changes in cognitive abilities.

Evolution of Humor

Case Studies: Humor Transformation in Dementia

Let’s Look At Margaret:

Margaret was known for her sharp wit and sarcasm. As a former journalist, her humor was deeply embedded in wordplay and satire. However, as Alzheimer's disease progressed, her family noticed a stark shift. She began to laugh at slapstick humor on television, something she had never enjoyed before. Jokes that required interpretation or abstract thinking didn't bring the belly laughs they used to. Instead, she found amusement in simpler, more straightforward humor. This shift was confusing for her daughter, but understanding the link between dementia and humor helped bridge this new gap in their relationship.

Let’s Consider Richard:

Richard, a former professor, had always had a dry, intellectual sense of humor. After his diagnosis with vascular dementia, Richard's humor underwent a transformation. He began to enjoy practical jokes and find amusement in repetition or absurd situations, reminiscent of the humor styles common in children. Although initially disconcerting for his family, they learned to appreciate this new facet of Richard's personality, finding joy in his laughter even amidst the challenging journey of dementia.

Embracing the Change

Navigating humor changes in a loved one with dementia can be a disorienting experience. It's crucial to remember that while their humor style may change, their need for connection, laughter, and joy remains. Adjusting to their humor can provide moments of lightness and bonding, even in the face of dementia's difficulties.

For more insights on dementia and humor changes, Alzheimer's Association offers valuable resources. As well as the Dementia Society of America, which you can find here: Dementia Society of America.

Evolution of Humor
  1. Adapt and Engage: Recognize that your parent's sense of humor is shifting as part of the progression of dementia. Embrace their new form of humor and engage with it, even if it feels unfamiliar or less sophisticated than before. This adaptation fosters connection and shared moments of joy, reaffirming your relationship amid the changes dementia brings.

  2. Promote Positive Interactions: If the humor becomes inappropriate, gently redirect the conversation or action towards more suitable alternatives. Remember, your loved one may not fully grasp social norms or cues like they used to. Maintain an atmosphere of patience and understanding, focusing on promoting positive interactions.

  3. Seek Support and Share Experiences: Connect with others who are navigating similar journeys. Sharing experiences can provide valuable insights and strategies for dealing with humor changes. This can be done through online forums, support groups, or workshops like "From Overwhelmed to Empowered: A Workshop for Daughters of Dementia". Remember, you are not alone in this journey.

Discovering Strength in Unity: Your Invitation to Empowerment

Navigating the terrain of dementia can often feel like traversing an ever-changing labyrinth. From the subtle shifts in humor to the profound changes in memory and cognition, dementia's impact is far-reaching, and its challenges are multifaceted. As daughters of those living with dementia, we are often thrust into the role of caregivers, a role that can feel overwhelming and isolating. But remember, you are not alone.

There's a community of individuals who understand your journey, who've felt your heartache, confusion, and even moments of unexpected joy. It's a community that embraces the complexity of dementia, transforming the overwhelming into the empowering, and you are warmly invited to be a part of it.

Here, you will find understanding and support, you'll discover tools to manage the unexpected, to embrace the changes, and to find strength in unity. This workshop is more than an opportunity to learn; it's a chance to connect, to find validation, to gain empowerment, and to realize that you are part of a larger, compassionate community.

So, join us on June 24th. Take a bold step from feeling overwhelmed to being empowered. This is your invitation to join hands with a community that understands, supports, and uplifts.

Because together, we can navigate the labyrinth of dementia with resilience and grace, finding moments of laughter and connection even amidst the challenge. Together, we can transform our journey from overwhelming to empowering.

We look forward to welcoming you on this empowering journey!

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About the author

“Think Different” Dementia’s owner, Lizette Cloete, OTR/L graduated as an Occupational Therapist from the University of Pretoria in South Africa in 1992. Lizette has almost 30 years of experience as an Occupational Therapist in a variety of settings, the latest being in the home health environment. She enjoys teaching on the topic of dementia, most recently presenting at a national conference on the topic “Dementia Made Simple”.

Disclaimer: These blogs, videos and any work done by Lizette Cloete OT, as a Member of Think Different Dementia, LLC, is given only as educational content and consulting work. This does not create an Occupational Therapist-Patient Relationship. The educational content and consulting work performed should not be considered medical treatment as an Occupational Therapist. The consulting work does not take the place of medical work normally performed by a licensed Occupational Therapist. Please consult a licensed Occupational Therapist for medical advice.

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